On this, my second Mother’s Day, I feel reflective about my journey as a mother; where I am, where I’ve been, what I’ve learned, and who I’ll never be. My first Mother’s Day I was too tired to even think about how I was as a mom; but another year has gone by, I’m another year wiser, and I’m able to be completely honest about my shortcomings.
There’s no doubt about it, I am not an awesome mom, but I am completely okay with that; I know that I’m the best mom for my son. My job as a parent is to care for my child, ensuring that needs are met, and that my child becomes a moral, law-abiding citizen.
When I was planning to begin a public blog, I asked my husband for help in naming this blog. I’m the everymom, and I planned to approach blogging from the standpoint that there was nothing spectacular about me or my parenting; I am an average mom, doing the best I can and sharing tidbits along the way. Thus, The Median Mommy was borne.[pullquote]I’m the everymom, and I planned to approach blogging from the standpoint that there was nothing spectacular about me or my parenting[/pullquote]
I think I spent the entire first year of my son’s life second-guessing myself each time I made a parenting decision (I don’t know how people parented before Google, honestly). I didn’t really compare myself to others as a mom because I had a definite plan for how I wanted to feed, diaper and nurture my son, but I was constantly filled with doubts about how I was doing. With another year of parenting under my belt, I’m definitely more confident, but I still have my shortcomings.
Look, I’ve browsed Pinterest; if ever there was a[n unrealistic] gauge for how you’re doing as a parent, Pinterest is it. The bento-box lunches depicting famous works of art, the beautiful hand-sewn outfits, the myriad of crafts designed to entertain and create a child-genius; you name it, it can be found on Pinterest. As much as I’d like to tell you that we have a well-lighted craft room in our house, with an unlimited store of materials, and that we upcycle almost everything we use; we don’t. Declan and myself are not doing daily craft hours, nor are we doing weekly craft hours; truth be told, it takes an insane amount of work to set crafts up for a ten-minute attention span. I will never be that mom, and I’m okay with that.[pullquote]I’ve browsed Pinterest; if ever there was a[n unrealistic] gauge for how you’re doing as a parent, Pinterest is it.[/pullquote]
As a mom, I have rockstar days where D and I click and move seamlessly from one activity or errand to the next. I have mediocre mom days when I put on PBS and try to tackle deadlines, and I even have days where I give myself a ‘high-five’ for just keeping my child alive. It’s the truth, and I’m okay with that.
So, I’d like to extend a virtual “Cheers!” to all of my comrades out there not aspiring to be the best mom in the world, but who are, every day, being the best mom for her child[ren]. Hats-off to all of you moms who aren’t “awesome”, but are okay with that. Wishing all of you Median mommies a very Happy Mother’s Day!